Find a friend

 

It’s not always easy to make friends...

It can be especially hard if you have to move around a lot or have just started a new school. Sometimes you might question how many friends you have compared to the most popular guy or girl in the class who seems to be forever swarmed by hundreds of fans!

It can be pretty daunting either way but don’t panic!  Everyone has these feelings at some point in their lives, trust us!

 

 

 

Making someone be your friend is a no-go area. Friendships just happen without very much work - that's why they're so special.

But if you're struggling to make friends or want someone new to hang out with then there are plenty of things you can do to make this happen.

First things first, although it's easy to, don't think there's something wrong with you because, well, to put it simply - there's nothing wrong with you!  Friendships don't nomally happen over night (unless you go by the name of Katy Perry or Rhianna!) but they don't take much time either, if you look in the right places then you'll be chillin' with ya new homies in no time! aye?!

 
 

If you're struggling to make friends or want someone new to hang out with then there are plenty of things you can do to make this happen.

 

 

 

Teeny tiny things to find that friendship and make it blossom

We know that "being confident" and "chatty" isn't always as simple as it sounds and it's easy to be shy and hide away buy try to avoid that as best you can. Rememeber most people are just like you -
they're nervous, they want to fit in and will share many of the interests you have - music, TV, computer games, fashion, whatever. Find things that you have in common and conversations will come more easily.

Here are some tips:

Be patient!

Friendships take time to develop and it may take a little while to find people that you're comfortable with. Don't worry if the first person you speak to isn't your type. Also don't get too vexed it your new friendships don't feel as deep as your old ones. They won't to begin with, but over time you will be just fine.

Be fun and open to new things

People love being around those who make them laugh, who make them feel comfortable and who seem interesting. Again, it's easier said than done, but if you're open to new things and to new people they'll be open to you.

Join a club or sports team

This is the perfect way to make friends: you'll be meeting new people AND they'll share your interests and hobbies. Are there any after school sports teams, debating teams, drama clubs etc that you could join? Or if you fancy meeting new people who aren't necessarily from your school then head down to your nearest leisure centre and see what they have on offer!

Find something in common

This is one of the key reasons why friends make friends in the first place. It could be something really obvious like shoes, cars, R-Patz.... or, something which YOU think no one else would like.  You'll be surprised!

Don't put up a front

People can see through that and you won't be comfortable trying to act like something you're not.

Have a plan!

People will ask about your family and your background. They don't know you and will be interested, but this could mean they ask things that make you feel uncomfortable. You may not want to talk about being in care, or about your family, and that's fine. If you plan ahead what you might say, you won't be caught out.

Break the ice and make the first move

This might sound really scary but it's a great way of breaking free from any shyness. Pipe up with anything; the weather, last night's TV, music, homework - before you know it, you'll be having a full blown convo analysing your fave band's new album and the rest will be history!

 

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