Life in a couple

 

 

Being in a relationship can be really exciting. Sometimes it can feel like you'll never meet that person that's really right for you, so when it happens, it really is the most exciting thing ever! It's totally normal to spend these first few months in a haze of infatuation. But for some people, this feeling can make you forget about what else is important in your life. So what should a healthy relationship feel like?
 

A successful relationship should be made up of certain qualities:


Mutual respect for who each of your are. Does your boyfriend of girlfriend get how cool you are and why? For your great sense of humour, your love of X factor, etc. Do you feel happy with them and feel able to tell them what you're comfortable with? Being in a relationship means that each person values who the other is and doesn't feel the need to change them.

There's no way you can have a healthy relationship if you don't trust each other. Imagine you're chatting to a guy/girl from your history class and your boyfriend/girlfriend walks by. Do they totally lose it or accuse you of cheating? Or do they just wave and walk on, knowing that they have nothing to worry about as you'd never cheat. What would you do if it was the other way around? It's OK to get a little jealous sometimes — jealousy is a natural emotion. But how a person reacts when feeling jealous is what matters. If you don't trust each other, your relationship will never last.

You should support each other in good and bad times. One of the best things about being in a relationship is having that someone that you can turn to when something fantastic has happened so they can share your enthusiasm because they are happy for you and also be a comfort to you when things are tough.

You should be equal partners and be able to compromise. Do you take turns choosing which film to watch? Do you hang out with your partner's friends as often as you hang out with yours? Of course, it doesn't always have to be exactly even but you'll know if it doesn't feel right.

Being happy in a relationship also means being able to retain your individuality, what makes you YOU. When you started going out, you both had your own lives, families, friends, interests, problems, etc, and that shouldn't change. Neither of you should have to pretend to like something you don't, or give up doing things you enjoy. And you also should feel free to keep developing your talents or interests, making new friends, and moving forward.

 
 
Don't go dropping your mates. In the end, love doesn't always last forever

 

 

A relationship becomes unhealthy when it involves mean, disrespectful, controlling, or abusive behavior. This is NOT ok and you don't have to accept it.

 

 

 

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