Making friends

First of all, remember this!

Although it might seem like everyone knows each other and they're all really tight, chances are things aren't quite what they seem. Just like your old school, people fall out, not everyone gets on great and - most important of all - they're probably keen to get to know a new person.

You're a breath of fresh air. You've got new stories and different experiences. People are nosey! They're going to want to know what you're about. If you're confident and open to chatting to new people, the chances are high that you will do well and quickly find people you connect with.

However we know that being confident and chatty isn't always as simple as it sounds. When things are new and a little scary, it's easy to be shy and hide away. Try to avoid that as best you can. Use some of this advice and you'll soon feel like you've got the run of the place:

Rememeber these people are just like you!

They're nervous, they want to fit in, they will share many of the interests you have - music, TV, computer games, fashion, whatever. Find things that you have in common and conversations will come more easily.

Be patient!

Friendships take time to develop and it may take a little while to find the people you're comfortable with. Don't worry if the first person you speak to isn't your type. Also don't get too vexed if your new friendships don't feel as deep as your old ones. They won't to begin with, but over time you will be just fine.

Be fun and open to new things

People love being around those who make them laugh, who make them feel comfortable and who seem interesting. Again, it's easier said than done, but if you're open to new things and to new people they'll be open to you.

Don't put up a front

People can see through that and you won't be comfortable trying to act like something you're not.

Have a plan!

People will ask about your family and your background. They don't know you and will be interested, but this could mean they ask things that make you feel uncomfortable. You may not want to talk about being in care, or about your family, and that's fine. If you plan ahead what you might say, you won't be caught out.

Break the ice

Ok it's tough to start new conversations, especially with people you don't know. But if you remember our first point - that they're just like you - it should be easier.