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Dear Suzie Recently I've been feeling really sad and I don't know why, and it's starting to make me feel really, really upset. In the holidays I went to stay at my Gran's and I came back a week ago and I miss her so much, because both my mum and dad died last year in the space of seven weeks. I feel like I never want to say goodbye. I just miss her so much and I keep crying all the time cos I miss her so so much! Please do you have any advice? Anonymous, Leeds |
Suzie's answerI'm so sorry to hear what a sad time you're having. I can't make the sadness go away but I think it might help if you realised that it's hardly surprising you're feeling so awful. Just look at what you've said: last year both your mum and dad died, in a very short time. That's such a terrible thing to happen - of course you'd feel miserable. Such feelings don't go away in the short time. Most important of all, they tend to return with a real force at certain times. Any family event - Christmas, birthdays, summer or Easter holidays - would make you think "We used to do this together". You'd be able to contain it when you were with your lovely Gran, but as soon as you leave her too, it's like losing her as well as your mum and dad all over again. My advice is to have a word with your carers about how you're managing. They should be understanding and sympathetic and will give you extra support. And you need to be in regular touch with your Gran by phone or email, and to know when you're next going to see her. Good luck! |
