Residential care - what is it?

 

You may go to live in a children’s home, particularly if you’re a teenager when you first become looked after.

Sometimes a young person doesn’t get on well with foster care, perhaps because they are deeply attached to their own family and don’t want a new family. Or it may be because they have very challenging behaviour (for example, being violent because they find it really hard to control anger) which foster carers have found difficult to cope with.

 


‘I went into a children’s home with two of my brothers, but my other brothers and sisters went to different places. I kind of loved it in the children’s home. There was a TV, music box and pool room. I felt good and played with my brothers in the massive garden.’ Sarah, 18

 

Some teenagers who become looked after say they would rather be in a children’s home because they want to be around lots of other young people and to feel more independent.

Some children’s homes are also schools, so the children living there also learn there.

A children’s home is a house with adults in it (the staff) whose job it is to look after the children who live there. The staff don’t usually live there, but they take it in turns throughout the day and night (it’s called ‘doing shifts’) to come in and work at the children’s home.  One member of the staff will be in charge of the home.

There might be one other child there, or lots of other children, but usually there are less than 10 children all together.

There will be rules which the adults and children must all live by.

One of the staff members will be your key worker. This person will work closely with you to help you get the most out of your time in residential care. He or she will be someone you can talk to if you need any help or advice. Your key worker is a bit similar to a foster carer – they will care about you and want to build a good relationship with you.

 

 

 

Therapeutic residential care


There are some children’s homes for young people who had really bad experiences before they became looked after, and who need special help. These homes provide therapy – this is when a professional person regularly talks with you about your problems and behaviour and tries to help, and sometimes you will be offered activities such as art or music sessions which are designed to help you deal with your feelings. Some of these homes provide education too, particularly if children’s behaviour makes it difficult for them to go to school.     

 


Boarding school

A small number of looked after children live in boarding schools. You stay at the school most of the time, but go home or to a different placement (like foster carers or a children’s home) at weekends or during holidays.

 

‘Being in care can be tough, and being told that children’s homes are second best to foster care can be really hard to take. I think kids should be allowed to choose what’s best for them – for some kids, like me, living in a children’s home is actually the best.’
Louise, 19

 

 

 

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