Figuring out your sexuality can be really confusing. But you don't need to label yourself as straight, gay or bi immediately. It takes time to figure out what your feelings are and who you're attracted to. The important thing is to be honest with yourself. We're not saying that sexuality is simple, far from it. But accepting your sexuality is important as it's a part of who you are.

You don’t choose your sexuality, it chooses you. No one knows what makes people gay, lesbian, bisexual or straight. If you’re attracted to people of the same sex, this is normal and you deserve to be with someone you love.


Am I gay?

Virtually everyone will have feelings for someone of the same sex at some stage in their life - it's a natural part of sexual development. But if you find that you have these feelings quite often, it could mean that you're gay or bisexual.

I'm confused!

Sexual orientation, or sexuality, is all about who you have sexual feelings towards.

Heterosexuals or people who are 'straight' are people who only fancy members of the opposite sex

Homosexuals or 'gay' people only fancy members of the same sex. Girls who fancy other girls can also called lesbians.

Bisexuals are attracted to both sexes.

Should I come out?

If you think you might be gay, don't rush into 'coming out'. Your sexuality is a very personal thing and you need to make sure you're comfortable with it before telling the world.

But there's no need to hide it. It's true that some people can't accept people having different sexual orientations from their own but this is THEIR mistake - not yours. Remember you are not doing anything wrong or immoral so don't be tempted to hide your sexuality. It is a part of yourself and like everyone else, you have the right to feel comfortable with who you are.

Find out more

It can help to talk to other people who are going through the same thing. You could think about joining a club or society run by gay people for gay people. This can be really helpful if you don't feel comfortable talking to your friends about it. These groups might be advertised in the phone book, at GP surgeries, sexual health or contraceptive clinics, pharmacies, youth groups, local papers or on the internet.



It takes time to figure out your sexuality. The important thing is to be honest with yourself about what you're feeling



It's commonly believed that at least one in ten people is gay. That's about the same proportion as people with blonde hair.


Want some more information?

NHS Choices
More information about sexuality

Lesbian and Gay Switchboard
Information, support and referral service anyone who needs to consider issues around their sexuality.

Brook Advisory Centre
More information and support about sexuality

Information and support about being gay




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